So my homegirl Ashly Raynette got me to thinking, how awesome would it be for us to start some sort of club, in which women with the same focus and interests can come together and enjoy all that Saint Louis, or any other city has to offer. We could be the Sex in the City the Saint Louis Edition! I am very big on giving any woman recognition whether its with a compliment about a fierce pair of shoes she is wearing, telling a friend good job on being an awesome mom, or leaving a singing telegram on my besties voice mail just to tell them I love them (Kita and Tiara yall know all about that).
So lets do it, I know everyone has very busy lifestyles, but think about it. We are so busy with the kids and our men, or work and school, when do we really have time to chill with the girls? I honestly don't feel that hanging out with your girls once maybe every three months is acceptable. Men will make time to hang with the boys, they don't give a damn, but somehow they will reserve time with the boys every week, I don't see why we can't take the initiative to at least have a bi-weekly outing.
Feel free to email me ideas for activities, but this is something I really want to get a jump start on because summer is fast approaching and there will be plenty to do. Here are some ideas to brainstorm:
1. Twilight Tuesdays
2. Shoe Parties (i dont mean the shoe ordering parties, I mean put on a pair of your most funkiest heels and we are going to sip wine and discuss how fire they are)
3. Book Clubs
4. Salsa Dancing at Viva
5. Pole Dancing classes
4. Roller Skating (come on now yall know I'm still learning)
These are just suggestions, I look forward to hearing your ideas too! Email me at ericashaw82@gmail.com
Friday, April 22, 2011
When Your 10% Isn't Good Enough
While having a discussion at my uncle's repass, I learned that Friendly Temple Church requires you to provide them with your W-2 when you become a member of the church. After hearing this someone yelled "Erica close your mouth" because my jaw was on the floor! So I have to provide you with my W-2 so that you can be aware of my earnings, and therefore know how much I'm supposed to be tithing? So if I'm only able to tithe 5% this month, do I get kicked out of the church? Am I the only one that has a problem with this? I am very obedient when it comes to tithing, and eventhough I'm not able to attend church regularly because of my job, I still send my tithes to the church. It is so easy for us to spend $100 on a pair of shoes, but then we shortchange the collection plate when it comes around.
Keep in mind, my aunt has been a member for 5 years and tithes on a regular basis as well. She informed her pastor of my uncles passing, and I found it to be funny that Friendly Temple did not send any auxilary from the church and no one expressed their condolesences until 5 minutes before the funeral started, via over the phone. Something tells me that if my aunt's W-2 represented the earnings of an upper class individual and not that of a middle class individual, there would have been representation at the funeral home. I feel that this church is not only requesting W-2s of their members to see how much everyone should tithe, but to also diffrentiate the "big spenders" from the "common folk". That is disgusting to me! This is why I choose to avoid megachurches, because I want to be seen as more than just my social security #. I love the fact that my pastor knows me and my daughter by name, and she is ready and available for her members, not just sending auxilary, but SHE shows up and shows out!
If you attend Friendly Temple, please don't be offended, I am merely stating my opinion about the tithing process in comparison to what the Bible states. And I didn't see where it said that financial documents had to be provided to the church. One thing should be noted is that the pastor of the church does seem to use the money towards building the surrounding community, and I have a tremendous respect for that. Whether you are a tither or a tipper, I feel that you have to be very tactful in your approach when you are educating your congregation about the importance of tithing, and asking for a W-2 just seems tacky to me.
Keep in mind, my aunt has been a member for 5 years and tithes on a regular basis as well. She informed her pastor of my uncles passing, and I found it to be funny that Friendly Temple did not send any auxilary from the church and no one expressed their condolesences until 5 minutes before the funeral started, via over the phone. Something tells me that if my aunt's W-2 represented the earnings of an upper class individual and not that of a middle class individual, there would have been representation at the funeral home. I feel that this church is not only requesting W-2s of their members to see how much everyone should tithe, but to also diffrentiate the "big spenders" from the "common folk". That is disgusting to me! This is why I choose to avoid megachurches, because I want to be seen as more than just my social security #. I love the fact that my pastor knows me and my daughter by name, and she is ready and available for her members, not just sending auxilary, but SHE shows up and shows out!
If you attend Friendly Temple, please don't be offended, I am merely stating my opinion about the tithing process in comparison to what the Bible states. And I didn't see where it said that financial documents had to be provided to the church. One thing should be noted is that the pastor of the church does seem to use the money towards building the surrounding community, and I have a tremendous respect for that. Whether you are a tither or a tipper, I feel that you have to be very tactful in your approach when you are educating your congregation about the importance of tithing, and asking for a W-2 just seems tacky to me.
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Back To Our Regularly Scheduled Program
So I know I've been gone for awhile, lately I just have'nt t been motivated to write about anything good or bad. Then of course you always have idiots lurking on your page and being extra, shouts out to Shekinah Brown (yes you are the idiot that I was referring to) Initially I scrapped my old blog because my boyfriend felt that I was putting too much out there, but dude you run your mouth waaaaay too much to people about our personal business, claiming that you are getting "insight". So starting today my page is back in full effect and if anyone has a problem with what I write about, COME SEE ME, so I can tell you that I don't care, in person. I want people to be able to relate to the issues that I talk about and feel good knowing that its someone out here going through the same thing, and I could possibly offer a resolution as well.
So the night before my uncle's funeral, I was really in my feelings and before I knew it the tears were rolling down my face quicker than I could catch them. So I was going to meditate, and I was like no this is deeper than meditation. So I got on my knees and just started talking to GOD, keep in mind I started praying around 10:30 when I got off of my knees, it was after 1:00 am???? Where did THAT time go??? I seriously felt like I was praying for 20 minutes, not 3 hours!!! And my knees wasn't even hurting when I got up!!! Lol
I've never experienced anything like that before, and let me tell you, I LOVED IT! I feel as I draw closer to GOD, he is going to pull me away from everyone and everything that is not for me. So I'm just going to sit back and let HIM do HIS thang because me trying to control everything is not a good look, and its not working either.
Things are going to be different, because with me being the type of person that I am, there is no reason why i should be unhappy, especially when I'm so easy to please. Going forward the ONLY person that is worthy of my time and energy is Jordyn. My baby and I are so in tune with each other, she knows when I'm not my best. She is not a selfish child, she understands when mommy doesn't have enough money to give her EVERYTHING she asks for. She is patient, I couldn't have ever imagined that GOD would bless little old me with something so special. Jordy J you are the only thing in this world that I feel that I've done right I love you.
So my blog is back and it will be raw, I will talk about everything from love to relationships, sex, to tithing in church...if you have any topics that you want to hear about, feel free to email them to me at ericashaw82@gmail.com. Until then, stay tuned!
So the night before my uncle's funeral, I was really in my feelings and before I knew it the tears were rolling down my face quicker than I could catch them. So I was going to meditate, and I was like no this is deeper than meditation. So I got on my knees and just started talking to GOD, keep in mind I started praying around 10:30 when I got off of my knees, it was after 1:00 am???? Where did THAT time go??? I seriously felt like I was praying for 20 minutes, not 3 hours!!! And my knees wasn't even hurting when I got up!!! Lol
I've never experienced anything like that before, and let me tell you, I LOVED IT! I feel as I draw closer to GOD, he is going to pull me away from everyone and everything that is not for me. So I'm just going to sit back and let HIM do HIS thang because me trying to control everything is not a good look, and its not working either.
Things are going to be different, because with me being the type of person that I am, there is no reason why i should be unhappy, especially when I'm so easy to please. Going forward the ONLY person that is worthy of my time and energy is Jordyn. My baby and I are so in tune with each other, she knows when I'm not my best. She is not a selfish child, she understands when mommy doesn't have enough money to give her EVERYTHING she asks for. She is patient, I couldn't have ever imagined that GOD would bless little old me with something so special. Jordy J you are the only thing in this world that I feel that I've done right I love you.
So my blog is back and it will be raw, I will talk about everything from love to relationships, sex, to tithing in church...if you have any topics that you want to hear about, feel free to email them to me at ericashaw82@gmail.com. Until then, stay tuned!
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